Feel like all you and your partner do is argue, put it (the problem) away, never deal with it, move on, repeat? Feel like fights and arguments are happening more often than not? Feel like you don’t even recognize the person you fell in love with? Can’t remember what you even like about them sometimes? Feel like you don’t know how to talk to your partner? Feel like you are disconnected and exhausted? Feel at your wits end? Are you wondering if it’s even worth it? Then you have come to the right place.
Together we will discover where you are at in your relationship and we will find the best path for you to resolve the repeated conflict you are experiencing in your relationship, whether that is together or separately.
If you are wanting “your person” back, and want to be in a connected, strong, relationship where you want to share your hopes, dreams, fears and thoughts, that’s great!
Let’s get out of the noise!
You know what we mean…it’s really not about who did or didn’t take out the garbage or who never listens. Let’s get to the part that matters! The relationship.
Together we can identify the patterns that are blocking your path. We can stop that endless negative cycle you find yourselves stuck in and help you to re-engage with each other to get rid of the blame and shame, the ‘never’ and the “always”. Basically, we help you find the person and the relationship you chose in the first place.
Wouldn’t it be great to remember what it is you like about your partner? Wouldn’t it be great to start an important conversation without that certainty and anxiety in the pit of your stomach that this is only going to end badly?
In couples therapy your therapist will help you to:
- Identify your negative patterns of communicating, where the conflict begins.
- Learn what is actually behind the argument, frustration, anger.
- Teach you a different way to speak to one another which will re-establish the connection you are looking for.
- Repair any injuries to the relationship; whether they are recent or historical.
What if it becomes apparent that this relationship isn’t going to work?
What if one person is one hundred percent certain they don’t want to be in this anymore?
That happens. Sometimes the best solution for a relationship to be better is for the relationship to end. Finding a way to leave the relationship and allow the person you used to love to have their dignity and to feel good about how you have treated one another is incredibly important if the relationship has to end.
This is vitally important when there are children in the picture; being responsible parents together is a lifelong responsibility. Those relationships need to be preserved and protected.
If this is you or becomes your relationship, we can work together to learn how to communicate honestly and kindly with one another as you end the relationship and leave both people in the best shape to move forward in their lives.
Couples in crisis can look very different, some (but certainly not all) of the concerns may be:
- Infidelity
- Parenting
- Loss of a child
- Intimacy/sex challenges
- Life transitions
- Emotion management
- Disconnection of one or both people
