Feel like all you and your partner do is argue, put it (the problem) away, never deal with it, move on, repeat? Feel like fights and arguments are happening more often than not? Feel like you don’t even recognize the person you fell in love with? Can’t remember what you even like about them sometimes? Feel like you don’t know how to talk to your partner? Feel like you are disconnected and exhausted? Feel at your wits end? Are you wondering if it’s even worth it? Then you have come to the right place.
Together we will discover where you are at in your relationship and we will find the best path for you to resolve the repeated conflict you are experiencing in your relationship, whether that is together or separately.
If you are wanting “your person” back, and want to be in a connected, strong, relationship where you want to share your hopes, dreams, fears and thoughts, that’s great!
Let’s get out of the noise!
You know what we mean…it’s really not about who did or didn’t take out the garbage or who never listens. Let’s get to the part that matters! The relationship.
Together we can identify the patterns that are blocking your path. We can stop that endless negative cycle you find yourselves stuck in and help you to re-engage with each other to get rid of the blame and shame, the ‘never’ and the “always”. Basically, we help you find the person and the relationship you chose in the first place.
Wouldn’t it be great to remember what it is you like about your partner? Wouldn’t it be great to start an important conversation without that certainty and anxiety in the pit of your stomach that this is only going to end badly?
In couples therapy your therapist will help you to:
What if it becomes apparent that this relationship isn’t going to work?
What if one person is one hundred percent certain they don’t want to be in this anymore?
That happens. Sometimes the best solution for a relationship to be better is for the relationship to end. Finding a way to leave the relationship and allow the person you used to love to have their dignity and to feel good about how you have treated one another is incredibly important if the relationship has to end.
This is vitally important when there are children in the picture; being responsible parents together is a lifelong responsibility. Those relationships need to be preserved and protected.
If this is you or becomes your relationship, we can work together to learn how to communicate honestly and kindly with one another as you end the relationship and leave both people in the best shape to move forward in their lives.
Couples in crisis can look very different, some (but certainly not all) of the concerns may be:
I recently graduated with a Master of Counselling from Athabasca University and registered as a provisional psychologist. Prior to this I worked as a Registered Social Worker and earned two previous bachelor degrees in Arts and Social Work.
I strive to build therapeutic relationships on mutual respect, trust and understanding because I believe this foundation creates the safe space required for individuals to navigate the therapeutic journey. I believe that every person brings with them a unique set of strengths, resources, experiences and knowledge that should be honoured and validated.
This belief informs my approach to counselling, which is from a strengths-based, collaborative, and integrative framework. In other words, I want to work with you to understand your narrative, as you experience it. I believe that bringing awareness to different areas can help to pave the way to achieving goals. Additionally, I believe that focusing on strengths can help empower individuals, leading to greater personal growth and well-being.
I tend to draw upon techniques from Acceptance and Commitment Therapy, Narrative Therapy, Solution-Focused Brief Therapy, and Mindfulness-based therapies in my counselling. Saying this, I also want to work collaboratively with you, to the best of my ability, to help explore your needs and work towards healing.
A few things about me:
It can be a difficult decision to come to therapy. To acknowledge there is something in our lives that isn’t working for us is scary. But whatever you are going through, and whatever you have been through, you are capable of change and healing. Together, we can explore how.
I graduated from the University of Calgary with a Master of Social Work. My decision to pursue that path was fuelled partly by the reflection that there is so much suffering in life that is made worse by not having adequate support. Suffering is inevitable at times, but having to endure it alone is not. We are all connected and dependent on one another. Challenges arise in that larger context, and I believe we have a responsibility to walk alongside each other in trying times.
I work from a trauma-informed approach, and draw on elements of Somatic Experiencing. In therapy, that means listening not only to the story you are telling, but to the story your body is telling. Pain and trauma affect not only our minds, but our bodies. The body provides valuable clues that, if we recognize them, can lead us to a place of greater well-being.
My work is also influenced by Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) and the mindfulness techniques it includes. ACT encourages us to reject the conditioning many of us have received that tells us some feelings are bad and should be avoided at all costs. It challenges us to embrace our inner emotional landscape, and by doing so invite peace into our lives.
Ultimately, I will tailor my approach to your own unique needs. In the meantime, I honour your strength and bravery in being willing to move forward on your healing journey.
A bit about me:
I will listen to your story and help you to see the resiliency that you already possess but might simply be hidden. I believe that change can only occur in therapy once a safe, genuine, and caring relationship is created between client and therapist; and I will spend my time building this authentic connection with you. My goals are to help you accept your own story and to move through what is blocking you from a more fulfilling and enriched life. I love this work because I get to journey alongside people through their successes and through their struggles.
I completed my Bachelor of Arts (Applied Psychology) at Concordia University of Edmonton and my Master of Counselling at City University of Seattle. I like to use techniques from narrative therapy, dialectical behavioral therapy, emotion-focused therapy, motivational interviewing, interpersonal therapy, and brief psychodynamic therapy. I use Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR) frequently to work with a number of presenting concerns, with a particular focus on trauma. I have specialized training in advanced EMDR, with focuses on early attachment trauma and neglect, as well as dissociation.
I take a client-centered approach and I will meet you where you are at – because you really know yourself best. I tend to view things from a depth perspective, which means that I like to help you recognize, understand, and accept what is at the core of your struggles. I apply this perspective to a variety of issues including substance use, trauma, depression, anxiety, relationship problems, and self-esteem problems.
Choosing to engage in this process can be a very difficult decision, but I will be honored to stand by you through it.
A few things about me:
The basics about me are first that I’m a provisional psychologist with a Master’s Degree in Counselling Psychology from the University of Calgary. My love of working with kids and teens comes from working as a school teacher and as a school counsellor and I have loved my experiences working with adults as a vocational rehabilitation counsellor. It’s been so inspiring to me to be welcomed into the world of others to share in the journeys of people from all walks of life.
When it comes to finding solutions for the challenges that life brings, I firmly believe that we’re stronger together. Asking for help gives us the opportunity to learn from one another and shed light on the strengths that we forgot we had inside. It can be one of the scariest things to open up, but I believe that when we create space to be honest, non-judgmental and compassionate with ourselves, we can see new possibilities and venture towards them with a renewed sense of mastery and courage.
I believe in the saying that comes from Narrative Therapy which states that “the problem is the problem, the person is not the problem”. This implies doing away with the blame, shame and stigma that come with life challenges and mental health struggles, instead working together to overcome the problem. When it comes to my therapeutic approach, I’ll often draw on Narrative practices or Solution-Focused questions to help map out strategies for moving forward and determining our goals together. There are times when we’ll use Cognitive-Behavioural Therapy (CBT) or Emotion-Focused Therapy (EFT) to help get through presenting concerns such as anxiety or depression. We might decide on therapeutic tasks that involve some creative expression or mindfulness practices.
When working with children, youth and families, I’ve learned to engage clients at their developmental level, helping young people to overcome life’s tough problems in a playful, empathetic and hopeful way. With kids, I believe that parents and caregivers are important teachers and team-members when it comes to making changes that last. When appropriate, I will collaborate with parents and create opportunities to educate them on the skills and attitudes that can help create changes outside of therapy.
A bit about me:
I recognize that seeing a therapist can be scary. The idea of becoming vulnerable by sharing your inner most thoughts and feelings is hard. Allowing me to join alongside you on your journey through therapy is a very honouring and rewarding experience. I enjoy celebrating in the steps and milestones that occur throughout your journey. The psychology environment provides a non-judgemental, safe, and encouraging space where, together, you are able to see that change is possible!
I am a Registered Provisional Psychologist with a Masters degree in Counselling Psychology from Adler University in Vancouver, BC. I work from a humanistic perspective which involves discovering the root of the problem. This is done through exploring your frame of reference to the world, understanding how your experiences shape your perception, and the lens in which you see yourself. I incorporate attachment theory, positive psychology, mindfulness, and aspects of systems therapy.
I have training in cognitive behavioral therapy which involves challenging unhelpful thoughts and behaviors, narrative approaches which involves evaluating stories we develop about ourselves, and compassionate inquiry which explores what is underneath the way we portray ourselves to the world.
I come from a primary healthcare setting where I have been given the opportunity to work with a variety of presenting problems in adults and adolescents.
A little about me:
What does one put here? My name is Ashley and I’m a psychologist? That I completed my PhD in Clinical Psychology in 2012 from the University of Saskatchewan seems a little stuffy, but necessary.
My philosophy on life and change? I’m still working that out. I guess what I probably need to say is that I do this work because I love to celebrate the successes, absurdities, and challenges of my clients.
I recognize that seeking out therapy is a challenging decision for many and I have the opportunity to work with people through what are some of the most difficult times in their lives. I like to approach my clients with warmth, humor, and directness and I work hard to make my office a safe place for people to explore the darkness and the light that exists within them, and indeed all of us.
If we are going to get down to the technicalities here, my theoretical orientation is an interpersonal perspective which in short means that I work to understand how we relate to others is critical to our mental health. We are all trying to be happy we are all trying to get our emotional needs met, but sometimes we just need a little help with that.
I apply this perspective to a variety of issues including substance use, depression, anxiety, relationship problems, domestic violence and abusive behaviors, and interpersonal conflict. Change is hard work and I am honored to work with my clients to achieve it.
A little about me:
I look forward to meeting you!
* Currently Ashley does NOT take appointments for couples therapy and adolescent therapy.
I love the work that I do. I love learning about what makes you thrive, and helping you discover what you truly want to see come to life within you. When people hear what I do for work, they often say something along the lines of “That must be challenging/hard/sad”. At times, my work can certainly be challenging, but it’s also an immense privilege to sit with my clients and hear their stories. It’s incredible to see their progress and growth, and witness all the ways they feel connected. Though there are moments of sadness and pain, there’s also beauty in the joy, growth, and connection my clients experience.
I work with couples and adult individuals. Therapy takes trust, and vulnerability. I strive to create a space for my clients where we can be open, honest, and work towards your goals at a pace that feels comfortable for you.
I enjoy working with couples, no matter how long you’ve been together. Sue Johnson says: Underneath all the distress, partners are asking each other: Will you respond to me when I need, when I call? Do I matter to you? Am I valued and accepted by you? Do you need me, rely on me? I want to help you connect meaningfully in your relationships, to feel seen, heard, cared for, and connected with your partner. I’ve studied Gottman Therapy, and Emotionally-Focused therapy, which are grounded in deepening and strengthening our connection to our partner. We can learn skills and work through tough issues and hurts of the past to increase the quality of your relationship.
I also work with adult individuals. Ultimately, I want to help you feel at home within yourself. I believe you are your own best expert. I work from a variety of approaches, including Satir Family Systems. Together, we can uncover what you truly value in life, and better understand who you are. I want to help you align your decisions and behaviors with what you value, feel, and desire.
I see huge growth and changes when clients stay invested in therapy outside of our sessions, so I’m happy to send handouts, book suggestions, videos, or podcasts to help your continued growth, if that’s your cup of tea.
I hold an Honors, Bachelor of Arts with a specialization in Psychology from the University of Ottawa, and a Masters Degree in Counselling Psychology from Trinity Western University. I also specialize in perinatal mental health, and maternal health. If you’ve experienced the loss of a pregnancy or a traumatic birth, You may have loved ones who have no idea what you’ve experienced, and you may feel isolated and alone in your experience. We can navigate this together, and all the complexities of how you feel and how it impacts your relationships.
Lastly, a little about myself. Therapy is so personal, and I only think it’s fair I share a little about who I am with you:
For as long as I can remember I have wanted to work in a profession where I was able to lend a helping hand to others. I stumbled upon the world of psychology accidentally while I was completing a counselling course as part of my undergraduate degree in Education. There was a strong feeling from within that told me I would one day love to be a psychologist and here I am.
My passion for working with children and adolescents comes from my background in Elementary Education. As long as I can remember I have always enjoyed working with this population and it has been a privilege to be able to apply my previous knowledge to support development and growth in the therapeutic space.
A strong collaboration between myself, my client, supportive family members and other professionals is important to me. I call my office the “no judgment zone” where we are able to feel comfortable exploring various challenges and working towards finding viable solutions.
There is no cookie cutter or “one size fits all” approach when it comes to therapy. I work very much from a client-centred approach to understand the world as you see it. I draw from areas including Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT), Narrative Therapy, and Solution Focused Therapy. Part of therapy is us deciding together what approach will work best for you.
I know that therapy can be challenging, including the decision to start. Acknowledging that you have a challenge you are willing to work at is a strength and I am here to recognize it.
A bit about me:
My journey here to Reframed began in University where I took a part-time job as a youth worker with high-risk youth. This position led me down a path that included working in addictions, as well as with a variety of adolescent forensic populations over the past 10 years.
This unique and diverse population provided me with experience in adolescent development, trauma, mood and personality disorders. Further, I was granted a front row seat to witness the raw resilience demonstrated by clients from various backgrounds. Additionally, this front line work provided me with the motivation to complete a master’s degree in counselling psychology in order to continue to support those who encounter many of life’s challenges.
Beyond working with adolescent forensic populations, I have previously worked in a private clinic as a therapist with everyday adults dealing with anxiety, depression, emotional dysregulation, and a number of other common issues that we may face from time to time.
Why is common emphasized you may ask?
While mental health initiatives have come a long way in recent years, I believe it is still vital to normalize these experiences daily and my hope is to contribute to your mental well-being in any way I can. Whether it’s simply unloading everyday stressors and problem-solving, or dealing with depression and anxiety, please feel free to reach out, ask questions and come into our new clinic for an intake session.
A little about me:
If you are looking for a psychologist who can see you for who you are and the possibilities that lie before you, even if you cannot, then you have come to the right place.
I consider my work with clients to be such an honour! They entrust their challenges and vulnerabilities with me in order to the two of us to work in a partnership to help them to see and attain the possibilities that could exist in their life. That trust is the very definition of privilege and the rewards of witnessing the change and the transformation in clients are truly satisfying. I have a wide range of experience with individuals, couples, and families dealing with a variety of issues. This diverse experience has allowed me to watch clients embrace the enormous change that can occur within people who are struggling and often may not be able to see their path forward.
My work focuses on people’s connections with themselves (how they see themselves as a person) and with others, using Attachment Theory. Very often when we have struggles to connect we then find that we experience a variety of issues from depression, to anxiety to personality struggles. By repairing and learning how to better connect, people are able to regulate their emotions in a healthier manner and find that they can attain their goals and dreams. Working with my clients to tailor their therapy to their needs is an essential part of the process and more often than not it requires a blending of different modalities to truly meet client goals. Check out my methods and trainings page if you would like to learn more.
I’m also trained to provide psychoeducational assessments for children ages 6-16. Psychoeducational assessments help determine if there is a learning disability or a behavioural or mood disorder. (anxiety, ADHD, etc.). These assessments provide a window into how children and adolescents are functioning within their different environments, including both school and home. The information that can be learned from an assessment is far more than an IQ and numbers, it provides information that can create successful learning environments, both in school and at home, and can lessen frustration for educators and parents. I wish that I had known more about this when I was a classroom teacher!
I have a special interest in relationship issues and trauma. I enjoy working with people who are struggling in their relationships, whether that is as individuals, couples or families. The relationship dynamics that people find themselves in is often a pattern that can be interrupted, changed and significantly improved.
With healthy, happy relationships people lead healthier more satisfied lives. Using a blend of two very well respected methods, Gottman and Emotion-Focused Therapy, I tackle the practical side of building relationships along with the important work of creating strong, secure connections. Let’s face it, all people want to connect, to feel like they belong and when people struggle with relationships they are lonely and find that they are grieving what they do not have.
Trauma is another area that I have a special interest in. The impact that trauma has on a person’s psychological and physiological functioning is tremendous. Being able to assist clients in processing their trauma and being able to function more effectively in their daily lives is an exciting component of my practice. It requires patience, empathy, and solid training. When working with trauma I utilize mindfulness activities in order to help clients to be in the present moment and be able to ground themselves, this is a small component of a therapy called Acceptance and Commitment Therapy, which helps clients to be able to find their way out of unhelpful thought patterns. Additionally, I am trained in and utilize EMDR, which is an evidence-based therapy for trauma. I find this work to be especially challenging and rewarding.
So…that tells you about my work and passion in the world of psychology. Now…how about me as a person?
Ok… enough about me, I’m curious and excited to hear about you!